Coming into college, I never thought sorority life was for me. I was scared of finding my place, especially after moving from Houston, Texas, to Pullman, Washington. No one in my family had gone to college or been part of Greek life, so I came in pretty much blind.
Once I got to campus, I realized joining a sorority might be something I wanted to try, but it was already too late to sign up for formal recruitment. Around that same time, a dorm tour video I posted unexpectedly blew up on TikTok. I had come to college ready for a fresh start, so having people recognize me from a short video felt strange and overwhelming.
Thankfully, Sigma Kappa reached out to me about the Continuous Open Bidding process. I walked into the house super timid and nervous, even though I had no reason to be. From the beginning, the women in Sigma Kappa welcomed me with open arms. I met so many genuine people and got a tour of the house that immediately made me feel more comfortable.
I accepted my bid and never looked back. By stepping outside my comfort zone, I have made meaningful friendships and memories that I will always carry with me. Joining a sorority has changed my college experience for the better, and I truly cannot imagine my time at college without Sigma Kappa.
Who was I before sorority life?
In high school, I was extremely involved. I spent nearly eight years in theater, and it became a major part of my identity. From late-night rehearsals to opening nights, the auditorium is where I spent most of my formative years. Theater taught me discipline, time management and how to work as part of a team under pressure. Alongside theater, I was involved in student government and student council, which allowed me to step into leadership roles and stay constantly engaged. I was always busy, always surrounded by people, and always moving from one commitment to the next. That was where I thrived.
The transition to college, however, felt unsettling. Going from being the busiest person I knew to doing nothing outside of attending classes was a difficult adjustment. Without extracurricular involvement, I felt disconnected and unsure of myself. I quickly realized that I do best when I am active and challenged, and that simply focusing on academics was not enough for me. I missed having responsibilities, deadlines and a community that relied on me.
Joining a sorority helped me reconnect with the version of myself I know and love. Being involved in meetings, events, programs and philanthropies gave me structure and purpose again. It allowed me to balance multiple commitments while building relationships and giving back to the community. Through sorority life, I rediscovered my confidence and sense of belonging. Being busy once again did not overwhelm me; it grounded me and reminded me why involvement and leadership have always been such an important part of who I am.
Who did I want to become?
I wanted to become confident in her place and intentional about the community she was part of. I wanted to be involved in something that challenged me, held me accountable, and allowed me to grow alongside others. Sorority life allowed me to become that person. Through chapter meetings, events, programs and philanthropy, I found structure and purpose that I had been missing. I wanted to be someone who showed up not only for herself, but for the women around her—someone who contributed, led, and supported her chapter in meaningful ways. By joining a sorority, I began to shape myself into a more confident, engaged, and well-rounded version of who I hoped to become in college.
Why did I join a sorority?
I joined Sigma Kappa because I was looking for connection, purpose and a sense of belonging. Coming into college without the structure and community I was used to left me feeling lost, and I knew I needed something that would challenge me while also supporting me. Sigma Kappa stood out because of its commitment to sisterhood, service and personal growth. The chapter is made up of women from diverse backgrounds, experiences and perspectives, creating an environment where members feel respected and included. Through philanthropy, leadership and everyday support, Sigma Kappa has helped me grow into a more confident and grounded version of myself. Joining the chapter did not just change my schedule; it changed how I see myself and what I am capable of becoming.
How have I evolved?
Through my college experience and involvement in Sigma Kappa, I have experienced significant personal growth and developed the confidence I carry today. Entering college, I struggled with uncertainty and a loss of identity after leaving behind the structure that once defined me. Sorority life provided the support and opportunities I needed to rebuild that confidence. By taking on responsibilities, building relationships, and contributing to a diverse and inclusive chapter, I learned to trust myself and my abilities. I have grown into a woman who is self-assured, engaged, and unafraid to step into leadership and community. Finding this confidence has been one of the most meaningful outcomes of my college experience.
